7 MOST COMMON MISTAKES IN PUBLIC SPEAKING
It is not a bad thing to make mistakes. In fact it is totally normal. In speaking there are seven common mistakes that most speakers make. Yes! I have made some of these mistakes and I have some speakers commit the same mistakes as well. So, stick with me as I discuss these seven mistakes with you.
1) LACK OF ORIGINALITY AND AUTHENTICITY
As a young speaker you will be familiar with the voice that comes to your head saying; talk like Emma Imasuen, Brian Tracy, Myles Munroe and the rests.
You must rebuke that voice and try as much as possible to eliminate it completely from your head, if you want to be an outstanding speaker. Be yourself! I repeat be yourself! Nothing pays more than this.
Use your voice, style and approach. “Never be someone else” Be original and that’s being yourself, and being authentic is to add quality to your originality.
Starting out my speaking career, I made this mistake and I have learnt that copying another speaker cannot give me satisfaction I desired. Actually being yourself gives satisfaction!
2) PLANNING YOUR SPEECH WITHOUT THE AUDIENCE IN MIND
To me there is no speaking career without the audience. Before you plan your speech, you should have a mental picture of what your audience look like.
You should know if you are addressing the old or the young, business people or not. Who is my audience? Should come first before what do they need to hear?
If you are using one style to address every audience, you won’t be able to communicate with your audience effectively. Your audience should determine your style and approach.
3) LACK OF PREPARATION
You have not prepared until you have taught yourself. Many speakers just write down their speech for speaking sake without first teaching themselves first.
When you teach yourself first, it becomes easy for you to flow with your audience. Do you remember the saying that says you cannot give what you don’t have?
Well you must have it first before you can give it out. “Your teachings should always be from inside out”
Also you must research on your topic to get the knowledge of it before writing your speech. You have to rehearse repeatedly until it has become of you.
“Repetition is key to mastery” please avoid cramming, else you want to go out there and mess up your reputation. Remember you can easily forget what you cram.
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4) LACK OF COMMUNICATION SKILLS
If there is no understanding then there is no communication. The essence of you communicating with your audience is so they can understand you and what you have to say.
I once sucked at this! I had no idea of what it meant. My own was let me come, talk and go but the feedbacks I got discouraged me at some point.
Until I had the courage to work on those feedbacks. Which were basically my lack of communication skills. These are very important and will give you an edge if mastered.
A) WHAT TO SAY
This is the least important thing to consider among these 3 skills. It’s cool to have great speech, but you can still get less result if the 2 skill is out of place.
B) HOW TO SAY IT
How to say it is more important than what to say. This has to do with your; intonation, punctuations, accent, pronunciation and so on. How you say it can make more interesting or less.
C) BODY LANGUAGE Yes! Your body speak languages, actually they are non- verbal. Your facial and hand movements should be in line with what you say and how you say it.
“You cannot say NO and your expressions are saying YES” This is more important than the other 2 skills, because this is really what your audience sees.
People believe more in what they see than what they hear. It’s perfect when all the 3 skills go together.
7 Most Common Mistakes In Public Speaking; Gloria Okonye Writes
Try and reduce it to the minimal. It doesn’t tell well on your reputation because you can be nicknamed with it.
Sure! I didn’t escape this but thank God for giving me great friends who were always watching out for my mannerisms and correcting me.
Trust me when you are up there, you don’t know when it becomes excessive. How did I deal with it?
It’s simple, just think of what to say first as fast as you can before saying it.
6) AVOID EXCESSIVE MOVEMENT
I remembered the day I went for a program and the speaker was just jumping from one place to another, It was so disorganized and he lost the attention of the audience.
You have to control your movement but make sure you don’t remain in the same spot. Also make sure you are standing where everyone can see you.
7) NOT KEEPING TO TIME
Nothing can kill a speaker’s reputation other than not keeping to time. “No matter what make sure you don’t exceed the time given to you”
You can do this by requesting of the time given to you from the organizer of the program as soon as you received the invitation to be the speaker at the program.
Then use the time to prepare. Let’s say you were given 30 minutes, know that the actual time given to you is 25 minutes.
What about the remaining 5 minutes? That 5 minutes is given should there be any unexpected delays. So, you plan with 25 minutes. Keeping to time boost your integrity!
I will like to add that you should always come early to every program you are invited to as a speaker. Why? To make your observations about the stage and to listen to other speakers if any.
I have been to a program that the first and last speaker ended up speaking on the same thing.
Assume, the last came early, she would have been able to change some things.
Okonye Gloria Ukamaka